The Insomniac Feminist

This writer answers the question perfectly - it really doesn’t matter. Wait how long you want, it doesn’t make you a better or worse person. I still have it in the back of my mind to wait at least a couple dates, but if you have instant chemistry what’s the point in putting it off? It’s probably best to know more about the guy, but it should be considered on an individual basis. For example, if you’ve been messaging a guy for a month or so and finally go out with him, what’s the harm in getting physical right away if you want to? The worst thing that could happen is the guy could use sex as an excuse not to have a longer-term relationship with you, but the real reason he didn’t want to commit is not because you decided to have sex with him sooner than later (at least in most cases). What are your thoughts?

I feel like this list could be shortened somehow. I usually only refer to relationships as dating, FWB or fuck buddies when they’re not a long-term, committed relationship. I don’t think people need to know more than that, like if it’s an ex you’re having sex with (I mean, it’s still a FWB or fuck buddy situation). Or you could just say “it’s complicated” and it encompasses all 9 of those pre-exclusive relationships. Ta-da!

Nine months? That still seems pretty long to me haha, I can’t seem to stand anyone for more than 1 month.